This year I will turn 28 (but not until September, still a long, looong way to go, right :D). So, as I am still 27, I decided to list 27 tips for younger me. What would you add to the list?
1. Be kind
And to me, being kind doesn’t mean same as being nice. I really love the word kind, I don’t think we have an equivalent word for it in Finnish.
2. Don’t compare yourself to others
Be yourself and don’t compare yourself to others, especially not to models or celebrities.
3. Be brave
Don’t let people put you down, stand up for yourself. You don’t have to please others and agree on everything, just tell your own opinions. This doesn’t mean you should be rude either. I wish in school I would have been more brave, gone and talked to that one girl who was alone and invited her to our group, but I was too shy back then. I guess I wish I would have been more of a “everyones friend”.
4. You are not in a hurry to be an adult
There’s plenty of time to be a grown up with responsibilities, enjoy being a kid. Be silly and have fun!
5. Don’t wear too much make up and take good care of your skin
I had bad skin as a teenager and tried to cover it with lot of makeup, which ended up looking horrible. When I was 18 and loved going to clubs, I would go to sleep with my makeup on – I can’t imagine doing it anymore. So please, take care of your skin and don’t try and look older with more makeup.
6. Take a gap year
And use it well, work half of it and save money and travel the other half. I was in a hurry to move away from home, but to be honest, it would have been quite great to get a job from somewhere and save some money by living at home for a while – then maybe go to New Zealand or Australia… 🙂
7. Travel more
Always travel when possible, never turn down a trip wether it is far or close. Buy less clothes and other material thing and more tickets 🙂
8. Buy less and focus on quality
You don’t have to buy new clothes all the time, buy less but when you do – buy better.
9. Have more hobbies
Learn a new language, go to painting or pottery class or ballet.
10. It doesn’t matter what others think
Stop worrying what other people think and do things that make you happy and things that help you be a better person.
11. Stop complaining
Yeah yeah, everyone complains sometimes, but try to avoid negativity and see the positive side of things instead.
12. Be curious
Try new things and never stop learning and exploring.
13. Open up a savings account for an apartment as early as possible
You will thank yourself later 🙂 And if you can’t open it earlier, open it as soon as you have a steady pay check.
14. Visit your grandparents
I wish I had visited my grandmothers more and asked them to tell stories about their youth and the time during the war, about their wedding… anything to be honest. We visited my mother’s mom very often when I was a kid and I have great memories from those weekends. When I was studying in Uni I lived in the same city as my father’s mother and tried to visit her once a month during those years. But now they are both gone and there’s so many questions I never got to ask.
15. Enjoy the little things in life
Buy a new face cream or fresh flowers, go for a morning walk and make a great breakfast after. You don’t have to live like a superstar, traveling the world and doing cool things all the time – try and enjoy the little things in life.
16. Don’t stress too much about grades
In the end no one will ask you about your 5th grade math test score. Learn for yourself, not for the school.
17. Don’t be too hard on yourself
When I was younger I would stress about a lot of things, like my skin, my grades, getting to Uni, being cool, looking good, being skinny etc. Looking back I do think I was being quite hard on myself, trying to please my friends and family and also tried to live up to certain expectations. I wish I would have loosen up a bit 🙂
18. Stay a whole year abroad
I loved my student exchange and the only thing I regret is not staying two semesters.
19. Be grateful
Be grateful for the things you have and never take anything for granted. Things are good in your life, appreciate it.
20. Respect and believe your parents
Parents want what is best for you, try to understand them, most of the time they are right anyway. Just think how much you love them an know they love you more.
21. It’s okay to make mistakes
Your brain doesn’t fully develop until the age of 25, so you’re going to make mistakes but consider them as lessons.
22. Heartache will pass
Remember there are far better things ahead than any we leave behind 😉
23. Get over it
So that one embarrassing thing just happened, so what. You won’t even remember it in 5 years. Get over it and be able to laugh to yourself.
24. Don’t color your hair
Your natural hair color is and always will be the prettiest.
25. Always try
Wether it is a job interview, school application, asking a guys phone number – anything. You won’t know if you won’t even try.
26. Don’t worry about the future
Live in the now, and stop worrying about the future and what you will do in five or ten years. Who knows, anything can happen 🙂
27. Things will always work out
They just do, even though during hard times it is difficult to believe it… in a way I think I might believe in destiny and that some thing are just meant to be – and some things are not. I think it helps in most situations.